Five Tips to Help Parents Listen Fountain Hills AZ
The only way we can truly be sure that they are all right, or if something is troubling them, is if they feel they can confide in us on a person-to-person basis. But are we actually listening to them as equals, or are we listening to them with condescending ears and, in the process, inadvertently breaking these lines of communication between parent and child -- leaving them unwilling to come to us for help?
Mr. Reuben Osollo
R Osollo Counseling
480-206-8295
10613 N. Hayden RD Building J-100
Scottsdale, AZ
Mr. Reuben Osollo
R Osollo Counseling
480-206-8295
10613 N. Hayden RD Building J-100
Scottsdale, AZ 85260
Credentials
Credentials: MSW, LCSW
Licensed in Arizona
12 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Behavioral Problems, Bipolar Disorders, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Multicultural Issues, Obsessive/Compulsive Disorder, Parenting Issues, Psychoses/Major Mental Illness, Self Abu
Populations Served
AIDS/HIV+, Children of Divorce, Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Alzheimer's
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)
Data Provided by:
Ms. Heidi Sonntag
Heidi Sonntag, LCSW
480-236-1432
9929 No. 95th Street, Suite 101
Scottsdale, AZ
Ms. Heidi Sonntag
Heidi Sonntag, LCSW
480-236-1432
9929 No. 95th Street, Suite 101
Scottsdale, AZ 85258
Credentials
Credentials: MSW, LCSW
Licensed in Arizona
25 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Bipolar Disorders, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Infertility, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Phobias, Pregnancy/Childbirth, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Spiritual/Religious Concerns, St
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics)
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)
Data Provided by:
Ms. Michelle Wolfgram
602-769-1170
5040 E Shea Blvd Suite 268
Scottsdale, AZ
Ms. Michelle Wolfgram
602-769-1170
5040 E Shea Blvd Suite 268
Scottsdale, AZ 85254
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Arizona
9 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Adoption/Foster Care, Behavioral Problems, Child Abuse and Neglect, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Parenting Issues, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Stress, Trauma/PTSD, Attachment Disorders
Populations Served
Children of Divorce
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17)
Data Provided by:
Ms. Anna Valenti-Anderson
SANE Resources
623-695-0064
2400 E. Arizona Biltmore Circle Bldg 4, Ste 2430
Phoenix, AZ
Ms. Anna Valenti-Anderson
SANE Resources
623-695-0064
2400 E. Arizona Biltmore Circle Bldg 4, Ste 2430
Phoenix, AZ 85016
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW, LISAC, CSAT-S
Licensed in Arizona
8 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Other (gambling, sex, etc.), Addictions/Substance, Couple or Marital Issues, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Sexual Disorders, Trauma/PTSD, Dual Diagnosis, Personality Disorders, Sexuality Issues
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics)
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)
Data Provided by:
Dr. Michael Zatkowsky, Psy.D.
480-451-4000
11270 N 129th Way
Scottsdale, AZ
Dr. Michael Zatkowsky, Psy.D.
480-451-4000
11270 N 129th Way
Scottsdale, AZ 85259
Specialties
Anxiety or Fears,Depression,Infertility or Adoption,OCD,Parenting,Relationship Issues
Education
PsyD (Doctor of Psychology) is an applied clinical doctorate emphasizing the application of Psychology in a wide range of clinical settings to promote mental health. Includes 5-7 yrs of training, and 3-4 yrs of supervised clinical work experience.
Membership Organizations
OCD Spectrum Clinic
Mrs. Lynn Barinbaum
Lynn Barinbaum LCSW
480-946-1610
8149 N. 87th Place Suite 203
Scottsdale, AZ
Mrs. Lynn Barinbaum
Lynn Barinbaum LCSW
480-946-1610
8149 N. 87th Place Suite 203
Scottsdale, AZ 85258
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW, DCSW. BCD
Licensed in Arizona
37 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Bipolar Disorders, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Eating Disorders, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Life Transitions, Women's Issues
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Step Families
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)
Data Provided by:
Bobette S Siegel, MSW,, LCSW
480-948-6222
15849 N. 71st Street Suite 100 Scottsdale, AZ 85254
Scottsdale, AZ
Bobette S Siegel, MSW,, LCSW
480-948-6222
15849 N. 71st Street Suite 100 Scottsdale, AZ 85254
Scottsdale, AZ 85258
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Arizona
25 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Aging, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Autism/PDD, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Multicultural Issues, Parenting Issues, Pregnancy/Childbirth, Sexual Orientation, Stress, Life Transitions, Perso
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Step Families, Cancer Patients, Biracial, Obese or Overweight
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)
Data Provided by:
Ms. Judith McHale
Judith McHale, M.A.Ed., LPC
602-953-5208
3420 East Shea Boulevard Suite 215
Phoenix, AZ
Ms. Judith McHale
Judith McHale, M.A.Ed., LPC
602-953-5208
3420 East Shea Boulevard Suite 215
Phoenix, AZ 85028
Credentials
Credentials: LPC
Licensed in Arizona
22 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Couple or Marital Issues, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adults (26-59)
Data Provided by:
Ms. Susan Daubenbis
602-550-8101
2942 N. 24th Street Suite 114
Phoenix, AZ
Ms. Susan Daubenbis
602-550-8101
2942 N. 24th Street Suite 114
Phoenix, AZ 85016
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW, ACSW
Licensed in Arizona
24 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Other (gambling, sex, etc.), Addictions/Substance, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Bipolar Disorders, Career/Employment Concerns, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Domestic Violence, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Mult
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Military/Veterans, Step Families, Interracial Families/Couples, Biracial, Grandparents
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)
Data Provided by:
David Walther
(480) 824-7203
Scottsdale, AZ
David Walther
(480) 824-7203
Scottsdale, AZ 85260
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor
Data Provided by:
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Parent & Child
Parents, Are You Listening or Lecturing to Your Kids? Five Tips to Help You Listen
By Julie Scandora
Email
Feb 11, 2009, 10:44 |
Seattle, WA - The knowledge that our children are safe, happy and emotionally sound is one of our greatest concerns. If they were being traumatized by something at school or, even worse, the attentions of a predator, we would want to be the first to know.
The only way we can truly be sure that they are all right, or if something is troubling them, is if they feel they can confide in us on a person-to-person basis. But are we actually listening to them as equals, or are we listening to them with condescending ears and, in the process, inadvertently breaking these lines of communication between parent and child -- leaving them unwilling to come to us for help?
"Children don't seem to get as much respect as other members of society," says Julie Scandora, teacher and author of the book 'Rules Are Rules.' "They experience the same emotional obstacles as adults, but this is often overlooked by grown-ups. Parents need to treat children with respect and ensure a trusting relationship."
Here are five of Julie's tips to help you communicate more effectively with your children:
1. Listen. It sounds obvious, but if your children don't think they will be heard, they won't go to you with the hard questions or problems.
2. Create opportunities for interaction with your kids. Families spend so much time apart these days. Use 'car time' -- such as the 20-minute drive to school as a time to communicate with your children.
3. Lead by example. Far too many parents opt for the 'do as I say not as I do' method. But this sends mixed messages to children regarding important situations.
4. Respect the child's intuition. We all have 'gut feelings,' and if kids are encouraged to trust theirs, they will be able to heed their intuition in dicey situations when we aren't around to help.
5. Don't confuse 'respect' with 'giving in.' It is important that the parental role is not usurped. Don't give in to kids just to diffuse a problematic situation. Instead communicate with them and let them know why rules are rules.
By showing our children that we are receptive to what they have to say and that we are willing to talk with them, not just at them, we can help them gain confidence and maturity, but we need to make sure we are practicing what we preach.
"Perhaps we need to start with ourselves, don't we!" laughs Julie, "But if we give our children the respect we give our peers, they will be better prepared to deal with whatever life throws at them. And when they encounter something for which they are still too young to deal with by themselves, they'll naturally come to us for advice."
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Julie Scandora is a teacher, editor, author and mother of three. She holds a BA from Smith and an MBA from the University of Washington and has taught c...
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